Break the Cycle: Conquering the Urge to Quit On Yourself
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As a personal development coach, parent, and holistic well-being advocate, I believe that setting and accomplishing goals is a powerful tool for enhancing self-esteem and improving mental and physical health. Pursuing your goals provides a sense of purpose and motivation that leads to long-term fulfillment and healthy confidence.
Conversely, quitting on your goals repeatedly reinforces a self-defeating message in your subconscious, which can adversely affect your ability to face future challenges and achieve your full potential.
According to self-efficacy theorist Albert Bandura, the belief in your ability to achieve a particular goal or task plays a significant role in your motivation and behavior. When you repeatedly abandon your goals without developing the necessary skillsets, it erodes your sense of self-efficacy, which ultimately results in reduced confidence.
This, in turn, leads to increased self-doubt, which questions your abilities and self-worth, affecting...
Is Communication the KEY to...
Recently, I had the opportunity to catch up with a colleague from my tenure as a broadcast professional. After connecting again through social media, we exchanged brief updates on our lives, discussing our families and current endeavors. During the conversation, my friend revealed that he was going through a difficult divorce after many years of marriage. As he expressed his internal conflict over the decision, I empathized, and with a heavy heart extended my support to him.
This conversation prompted me to reflect on the issue of divorce and its prevalence in modern society. During my time at college, I learned that in the United States, there was a projection that up to 40% of married couples would end up getting a divorce. The main reasons being cited: communication issues or irreconcilable differences.
Curiosity peaked, and I began to ponder if the divorce rate had improved since the turn of the millennium, and if the reasons for divorce had since...
The First Skill my Clients Must Learn is Honesty
Why Honesty?
Simple really; because no one can see past their own self-imposed beliefs. Honesty is the antidote that awakens us after biting the magic apple per se. Belief is a powerful energy that acts as an inhibitor or an accelerator depending on its polarity. Imagine a magnet which has two separate and opposite polarities; just as the earth has the north and south poles. Magnetic attraction or magnetic repulsion are the two possible effects from a magnetic field. Very much so, the magnetic energy carried by thoughts, beliefs, and feelings attracts or repulses positive or negative energy fields depending on the individual's leading polarity.
Actively engaging in personal honesty (with self and others), has helped me transform my own polarities. A quick example has been behaving as a reactive person in my youth (unconscious action), and transforming into a mindful and conscious observer of myself. Honesty is a...
